Fads, trends, fear & loathing…the pressure to be media beautiful has inundated the minds of women since the dawn of time. Early cave women were most likely trading furs to achieve the latest in cheetah vest trends. Think about the S-bend Edwardian corset, ain’t nobody really want to wear that. None the less, ladies would break ribs to achieve this unhealthy trendy shape.
Accessing style ideals has never been an issue for women. Its human nature to want to conform and be a part of the pack, again I’ll refer back to our ancestors. However, believing what you see and hear - now that can cause some head junk.
One of my favorite sayings is “comparison is the thief of joy.” And while style trends come and go, big business is always on top of our desire to buy and conform. That’s just the nature of the beast and I’m guilty of falling for it. It’s taken many years of self reflection & of self-ownership to break the cycle of style greed and self hate.
I did let “friends” impact me by what they said regarding my appearance. Hurtful words that stick with you. Rarely do we remember the kind words someone had said. Magazines, tv, whispers, judgement - and you know what? I hear adults do this all day long - it’s not just kiddos.
What is it about criticism that makes us feel better about ourselves? In criticism of others appearances we choose to not be conscious about the fact that we are comparing ourselves and stealing our own joy!
I’m so happy to see the media opening up to more body types, so we can wear our bikinis loud and proud regardless of being “too” skinny or “too” curvy. We can rock our tattoos and Birkenstocks - or heels and blazers (with our tattoos). Fashion is self expression, not self hatred.
Next time you find yourself wanting to smirk or mock - maybe take a second and ask yourself where is it coming from in your core. And ladies - let’s support each others individuality through fashion (even if it’s painfully corseted)!
I dare you to compliment a stranger today! Let me know how it goes!
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